An Incident happened here tonight that got me thinking about what would happen if Robert died tomorrow. I had plenty to worry about when Robert had come close to death a few times. This incident and fathers day being tomorrow brought all these feelings back once again.
I want take a minute and look at my mother in law right now. Her husband died at the age of 44 leaving behind 8 children the youngest being just a few months old. As a mother I look at her in awe and wonder. To continue to raise those kids and be both Dad and Mom at the same time as well as grieving the love of your life at the same time is unfathomable. Being a wife and mother I can't imagine what it would feel like to bring your children home from the doctor and not be able to tell their father how much they've grown. Sitting down at the table with your children and seeing His face on each one of theirs. My mother in law raised her children in the church and when it came to parenting those children the church was there the whole time lifting her up. She did everything she could even if it meant working 2 or 3 jobs. What I like about her is her humility. It was the job God gave her and she obeyed willingly. She did all she knew how and I look at her and wander if I would ever be half the woman she is, in those circumstances.
She raised sons without a man in the house to look to as an example. What do I want my boys to know about being a man if their father died tomorrow? He may have his own list but here is mine. Oh and this is the condensed version.
10) boys sleep with girls but a man looks for a woman that he can wake up to every morning for the rest of his life.
9)A man looks to other older men and asks for constructive criticism. So that he may make himself better.
8)A man never looses his temper in away that insults or disrespects others .
7)If a man does number 8 he apologizes even if he's right so that reconciliations can be made and grudges forgotten.
6)A man is only a man of the house if he is the oldest in the house or takes care of the entire house financially, spiritually, emotionally and and all the other LY's
5)A man knows when he is # 6 and when he is under authority that is to be respected. In work, in school, in life those that are even 2 seconds older than you are to be treated with respect. Using common manners is a good beginning. Know your place and respect the decisions of those that God has placed over you.
4) A man respects and loves his family finding their talents and helping them grow in those talents.
3)A man loves and respects 2 people above all others, his mother and his wife.
2)A man puts God first his spouse second and himself last. He takes the trials that is placed in his way and uses them to make him stronger. He stays faithful even if he questions God he still does not allow that to stand in the way of his faithfulness. He encourages those around him in their walk with Him.
1)He does all of these things knowing that God is the Great I Am. It doesn't matter how many degrees you have, how much money you make, how many children you have, how old you are or how much responsibility you may have.You are measured as a man by how you show humility, compassion, love, and respect to all of Gods creatures and How you glorify Him in all that you do.
I pray that God gives me the ability to parent my boys so that they understand these things. If I can instill these things in them. I will feel like I have raised my boys to be Godly men. After that God can then take them and use them for His glory where ever that may be.
I'm glad that my husband has all of these qualities some he had to learn on his own and some I still see him growing in. I love watching him evolve into the man God wants him to be it's beautiful.
Thank you mother Moore for raising me an awesome husband and awesome father. Thank you Robert for the love you give our children. A love that is no doubt much like what your own Dad gave his children. You share his name and his legacy and the man God is making you , your dad I'm sure is proud of.
I'm just grateful.
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